When Love Goes Wrong looks at relationships, how they go wrong, and how to end them properly if the problems are too great to be resolved. It’s a no-nonsense step-by-step guide that examines all the practical issues, including weighing up your options, counseling, how to cope when you lose chunks of your social and family networks, post-separation highs and lows, children and separation, living alone and, eventually, finding your own place and space in the world.
The leaving of a relationship is a process in itself, and, like grief, it has many stages that must be worked through until the conclusion. At first there’s fear and denial, loneliness and guilt, anger and frustration and loss of self-worth. Eventually there’s acceptance, letting go and learning to like yourself once more. For many, eventually there are new relationships where learning to trust again, and allowing yourself to be receptive to love, are huge issues.
Through surveys of other divorced/separated adults from various age and socio-economic groups – both leavers and leavees – the book is also the story of ordinary people living extraordinarily toxic lives, how they summoned the courage to leave or coped with being left, and the strategies they used to survive. With divorce and separation figures staying high historically, this book is an important ongoing resource for readers who are experiencing a breakup.
When Love Goes Wrong is available in e-book and print-on-demand formats from amazon.com.au.